Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Trust


I have learned that there are two key moments for an Advisor in Afghanistan.   The first is when your partner brings you into his circle of trust.  You can tell that when you both walk and he holds your hand for the first time in public.  It’s an outward symbol to others, especially to his guardians who are from his clan, that I have earned the trust of the leader.  This is good as you never know when an extra gun barrel down range will be needed.  It took me about a month and a half of face-to-face meetings, and keeping my word on a few key promises to earn that status.  It was an incredible high for me when it happened. 

The second is when you first discover that this same person is lying to your face.  At the end of the day, no matter your intentions, you are the outsider.  Once you realize these two situations can, and do, coexist, you can better meet your mission.  The boss said on our first introduction that you will find yourself bouncing between going too native or too cold.  You need to operate in the middle to be effective.  Afghanistan is the place for the pragmatist.
 

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